Oh ho! *in george costanza voice* - I got disengaged!

[_beanboots]

The day before General Conference! Oof!

Wow, I must have screwed up bad - to be dumped the day before our beloved prophet will speak to us.

Maybe Tommy needed a spiritual wife or something. Hmmm....

Has anyone else experienced something similar (i.e. a girl/guy breaking up with you at the dawn of conference)?

[_sock puppet]

The day before General Conference! Oof!

Wow, I must have screwed up bad - to be dumped the day before our beloved prophet will speak to us.

Maybe Tommy needed a spiritual wife or something. Hmmm....

Has anyone else experienced something similar (i.e. a girl/guy breaking up with you at the dawn of conference)?

No, boots. Well, if I have, it never occurred to me that there was any timing significance.

Did your ex-betrothed think she was a better LDS than you?

Sorry to hear it. If I were you, I'd spent the 10 AM-noon, 2-4 PM and 6-8 PM time slots today at a pub. If you are in SLC, how about the Beerhive on Main St?

[_3sheets2thewind]

I am sure it sucks....but better to be disengaged NOW than divorced with alimony and/child support later.

[_bcspace]

Hopefully you remembered to take the ring back, by force if necessary? And you kept the receipt?
lol

Now you need to go watch The RM which will tell you that waiting in the wings is far better girl who you'll just happen to meet but not recognize her potential for a while. And by the way, she's the daughter of a minor GA.

[_sock puppet]

beanboots, did you skip the Gen PH Mtg and find yourself a new girlfriend?

[_beanboots]

beanboots, did you skip the Gen PH Mtg and find yourself a new girlfriend?

No, unfortunately not. Looks like I'm moving back to Utah.

Westward, ho!

[_asbestosman]

I am sure it sucks....but better to be disengaged NOW than divorced with alimony and/child support later.

Divorce sucks enough even without alimony and kids, but kids make it much harder.

[Analytics]

Has anyone else experienced something similar (i.e. a girl/guy breaking up with you at the dawn of conference)?

Yes. It happened to me just before October conference last year, but it wasn't just breaking up. It was the decision to divorce. It sucked. It really sucks. We were miserable last year, but I miss her. I miss all the good times. I miss that she loved me. I miss her friendship and companionship. There are some things I don't miss too--things that really hurt me.

Certainly there are many things I could have done better. I even made many improvements, but it wasn't enough. Even now I wonder if it's possible to mend things, but I know that she felt trapped and miserable with me. She didn't like me asking her to reconsider last year so I stopped asking.

I'm lucky in many ways. No alimony or kids, and no debt but it still hurts. She's actually a nice person--that only makes it hurt more. If I'm bad enough that a nice girl like her wished to divorce me, then I must be pretty bad at being a husband indeed. I wasn't abusive. I don't think that we ever fought and I yelled at her maybe once or twice ever, but we did have disagreements. We still managed to hurt each other. In the end she said she didn't feel loved. I tried to be better at showing it, but it wasn't enough. If I didn't love her, why did it hurt so much when I realized she no longer loved me? I stayed up that entire night crying, and the next month doing all the household chores.

Some days are better than others. My family has helped for the most part although I'm not sure I agree with their assessment of her. Certainly she could have done some things better, but I do point out some good things she has done that they were not aware of and assumed she wouldn't do.

I'm not sure that I wish we had never married. I still treasure many memories together. I just wish we didn't hurt each other so much. I wish we could still at least
Just be Friends

My heart beat so fast with the spring air blowing sweet and wild
I still remember the moment we met and how you smiled
Slowly quarrels began to grow
and we've hurt each other ever since we said "hello"
The flowers of our hearts were concealing deadly thorns.

[_Yoda]

Has anyone else experienced something similar (i.e. a girl/guy breaking up with you at the dawn of conference)?

Yes. It happened to me just before October conference last year, but it wasn't just breaking up. It was the decision to divorce. It sucked. It really sucks. We were miserable last year, but I miss her. I miss all the good times. I miss that she loved me. I miss her friendship and companionship. There are some things I don't miss too--things that really hurt me.

Certainly there are many things I could have done better. I even made many improvements, but it wasn't enough. Even now I wonder if it's possible to mend things, but I know that she felt trapped and miserable with me. She didn't like me asking her to reconsider last year so I stopped asking.

I'm lucky in many ways. No alimony or kids, and no debt but it still hurts. She's actually a nice person--that only makes it hurt more. If I'm bad enough that a nice girl like her wished to divorce me, then I must be pretty bad at being a husband indeed. I wasn't abusive. I don't think that we ever fought and I yelled at her maybe once or twice ever, but we did have disagreements. We still managed to hurt each other. In the end she said she didn't feel loved. I tried to be better at showing it, but it wasn't enough. If I didn't love her, why did it hurt so much when I realized she no longer loved me? I stayed up that entire night crying, and the next month doing all the household chores.

Some days are better than others. My family has helped for the most part although I'm not sure I agree with their assessment of her. Certainly she could have done some things better, but I do point out some good things she has done that they were not aware of and assumed she wouldn't do.

I'm not sure that I wish we had never married. I still treasure many memories together. I just wish we didn't hurt each other so much. I wish we could still at least Just be Friends.

My heart beat so fast with the spring air blowing sweet and wild
I still remember the moment we met and how you smiled
Slowly quarrels began to grow
and we've hurt each other ever since we said "hello"
The flowers of our hearts were concealing deadly thorns.

Oh, Abman. HUGS

I had no idea! This is heartbreaking.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[_sock puppet]

Has anyone else experienced something similar (i.e. a girl/guy breaking up with you at the dawn of conference)?

Yes. It happened to me just before October conference last year, but it wasn't just breaking up. It was the decision to divorce. It sucked. It really sucks. We were miserable last year, but I miss her. I miss all the good times. I miss that she loved me. I miss her friendship and companionship. There are some things I don't miss too--things that really hurt me.

Certainly there are many things I could have done better. I even made many improvements, but it wasn't enough. Even now I wonder if it's possible to mend things, but I know that she felt trapped and miserable with me. She didn't like me asking her to reconsider last year so I stopped asking.

I'm lucky in many ways. No alimony or kids, and no debt but it still hurts. She's actually a nice person--that only makes it hurt more. If I'm bad enough that a nice girl like her wished to divorce me, then I must be pretty bad at being a husband indeed. I wasn't abusive. I don't think that we ever fought and I yelled at her maybe once or twice ever, but we did have disagreements. We still managed to hurt each other. In the end she said she didn't feel loved. I tried to be better at showing it, but it wasn't enough. If I didn't love her, why did it hurt so much when I realized she no longer loved me? I stayed up that entire night crying, and the next month doing all the household chores.

Some days are better than others. My family has helped for the most part although I'm not sure I agree with their assessment of her. Certainly she could have done some things better, but I do point out some good things she has done that they were not aware of and assumed she wouldn't do.

I'm not sure that I wish we had never married. I still treasure many memories together. I just wish we didn't hurt each other so much. I wish we could still at least
Just be Friends

My heart beat so fast with the spring air blowing sweet and wild
I still remember the moment we met and how you smiled
Slowly quarrels began to grow
and we've hurt each other ever since we said "hello"
The flowers of our hearts were concealing deadly thorns.

That's tough. I'm sorry to hear it.

I hope you find someone new, soon.