Zadok wrote:I fear you missed my point, which is... for the believing member, excommunication is the most traumatic spiritual event which can be inflicted upon another human being.Tchild wrote:If you bed your neighbor's wife, get excommunicated and then go through the process of reinstatement, that ain't what is being discussed.
Sure, there is a way back for the believer, but I fear you fail to recognize the abuse which occurs as the penitent believer tries to walk that path. First there is a MINIMUM of one year from excommunication and potential for re-baptism. During that time the believer is forced to wear the scarlet X on their forehead for all the ward to see and mock. Then, there is a MINIMUM of one additional year before the believer may have his priesthood restored. (Unwritten is a TWO year wait if the alleged infraction was homosexual in nature).
The question is what does the Church gain from excommunication. And I still hold that the answer is that it is a brutal abusive whip, to keep other members in line!
My impression is that excommunication is not spiritually traumatic, but socially traumatic.
It damages the individuals self-esteem and standing within the Ward and family social structure.
Sure some members go through the process of being broken and contrite, but they never lose that anger from being shamed and made to feel guilt within a social circle rather than it being a private matter between them and their loved one. Mormon Excommunication isn't private. It isn't a process for resolving issues between a man and his wife, or between an individual and their God.It becomes a public humiliation the moment the individual is forced into talking about the matter with 15 men who will sit in judgement of them. It becomes public the moment the individual is noticed not taking a small piece of bread or a small cup of water each Sunday, not saying a prayer, struggle;ing with an answer when asked about their calling etc. I mean, what can they say? "Hey, what calling do you do in your ward?" "Hem...I don't have a calling." "Oh, why not?" "Ehm....<insert lie>"
If Mormon excommunication were meant as a process of recovery rather than public coercion and humiliation, it would be a process that nobody but the individual and their loved on would be aware of. That the Church uses a process that ensures lots of people notice the individuals guilt shows it to be a calculated tool of shaming and submission. I fully believe that the process ensures people either do not repent when perhaps they wanted to, but decided they couldn't face the public humiliation of attending a Church that won't let them participate so all their friends and ward acquaintances become aware of the wrongdoing. Or it leaves those that do submit to the ritual punishment and humiliation with a lasting shame and guilt which turns into anger and contempt.
Mormon excommunication achieves the exact opposite of what it claims to want to achieve.