I have a question wrote:KevinSim wrote:I brought in the term bastard as an illustration that the term bitchy was inappropriate, not to imply that anybody had actually used the term bastard; the term bastard was like the term bitch, I said. And it is.
In what way is 'bitchy' inappropriate in the same way as calling someone a bastard?
Both are derogatory, and both have meanings that connect them with characteristics beyond the control of the person being described.
I have a question wrote:I posted the definition of 'bitchy' which is a commonly accepted term of reference used to describe "malicious or spitefully critical" language. It is non gender related and the way I used it was completely non gender specific. The only person here who seems intent on making this about gender or parent-less children is you.
Why then does the definition
I provided you declare that the term
is gender specific?
I have a question wrote:You are completely projecting your own misplaced and prudish sense of self importance onto a dialogue between two consenting adult posters who have absolutely no qualms with each other. If you don't like the tone of interaction between Jersey Girl and I then...DON'T f*****g READ IT!
Wow, the Mormon Discussions Board would shrink by a factor of ten or more if people who don't like the things that are said in an article simply don't blankety-blank read those articles. And it's beyond the tone of interaction, and beyond prudishness even.
Bitch (and its derived word
bitchy) is as bad as
any derogatory word that criticizes someone for characteristics beyond her/his control. I'm sure you can think of some; I'd explicitly mention them, but you'd probably yell at me for bringing them into the conversation.
I have a question wrote:How was it misplaced? You think it's appropriate to go around calling women's actions bitchy? I would say that calling women's actions bitchy is the thing that's misplaced.
Once again, the only person thinking this is gender specific terminology is you.
Ah, so the fact that "http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bitchy?s=t" and "http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bitch?s=t" indicate that the term you used
is gender specific, doesn't lead you to believe that there might be some other people who think "this is gender specific terminology"?
I have a question wrote:It boggles my mind that you can call the actions of a woman like Jersey Girl bitchy, and I end up the person that needs to issue an apology. It seems rather that the person calling the actions bitchy should issue the apology, not the person who points out that using such terminology demonstrates bad taste.
It may boggle your mind but the malfunction is all yours. I didn't call the actions of a woman anything at all. I enquired of Jersey Girl whether or not said posters posts were going to continue to be "malicious or spitefully cruel". I get that you think you're being a chivalrous man, coming to the defence of a poor defenceless little woman who needs a Priesthood Holder to stand up for her. But you should realise that your whiny, prudish, chauvinistic, self important irrational little screen dumps are being far more derogatory towards the poster Jersey Girl than anything I posted. She is far more competent at understanding words and context and in handling acerbic posters, such as myself. She is twice the man you are.
I was doing nothing more than what Chap did to me. You used the word
bitchy; I found it offensive and called your use of it bad taste. I used the word
illegitimate child; Chap found it offensive and pointed it out to me. Was that an indication that
Chap thought he was "being a chivalrous man"? I think it's safe to say he didn't see the need to come to the defense of a poor defenseless woman who needed a priesthood holder to stand up for her, since I'm not a woman, let alone a poor defenseless one. Was what Chap said an indication that he was whiny, prudish, self important, or irrational? Is Jersey Girl twice the man Chap is?
I have a question wrote:It's now too late for you to apologise to me.
IHAQ, do you often put deadlines on when people must apologize to you, that predate establishing that those people need to apologize to you?
I have a question wrote:But you should consider apologising to the board for the blatant derailment, overt sense self-importance, and for introducing the disgusting term you used for children without parents (I cannot bring myself to repeat it).
Once again it boggles my mind that you are so ardently defending the derogatory word
bitchy but for some reason can't bring yourself to even repeat a word that is just as derogatory, just as critical of people for characteristics beyond their control. I can kind of understand that this is the case with you because you think that
bitchy is not gender specific, but the two "dictionary.reference.com/browse" websites I provided up above clearly show that it is.
I have a question wrote:You should also apologise to Jersey Girl for assuming that, as a woman, she was unable to stand up for herself and needed you to come to her rescue. I treat women and men equally, you obviously think women are somehow unable to handle robust discussion.
Again, should Chap apologize to children of parents who weren't married when they were born, because he obviously thinks such children are somehow unable to handle robust discussion? It doesn't imply that a class of people are unable to handle discussion about them, to step in and call someone on the carpet for using derogatory terms denigrating that class.