SPG wrote:I was wondering, in the scope of things. How many of us feel stupid for having been deceived, (for those that think they were) and how that sits with how they feel about things now.
No, I don't feel stupid in the slightest. I have a pretty good handle on how and why I was deceived, and rather than beating myself up about it, I do my best to use that understanding to avoid being deceived. So far, so good.
SPG wrote:Does anyone feel comfortable with how they think about God, the universe, and stuff now, whereas in they thought Joseph Smith deceived them?
I'm perfectly comfortable with how I think about God, the universe, and especially stuff.

I see Joseph's deception and the existence of God as separate issues.
SPG wrote:I was doing a lecture that other day and the subject was, "Believing for the effect of it, not the truth of it." For example, most of the old rulers, pharaohs, emperors, some kings, Hercules, Horus, Osiris, not to forget Jesus, all thought they were sons of God. And Jesus, bless him, tried to convince us we were children of God.
I'm skeptical of the notion that I can choose to believe for effect rather than truth. in my opinion, trying to force oneself to believe something that one knows or even suspects is not true is mental unhealthy. You're asserting cause and effect here with no evidence -- which frankly is one of those things that Mormonism deceived me about.
SPG wrote:Knowing full well there is not way to prove it, how does it sit with non-believers the effects of these types of beliefs. Like, the ruling social powers of the earth of God believers. Probably always will. Does it bother you that I think I am a son of God?
Does something have to be true to believe it, or could you believe it just for the effect of believing it?
I don't think there is sufficient evidence to show that believing false things results in net good. I think there is a great danger that believing in false things will result in substantial harm. The Holocaust is a great example. As for you believing you are a son of God, it all depends on what the consequences of that are. If you think that holding that belief makes you somehow superior to your fellow humans, yes it would bother me. If you believe that it justified you in harming your fellow humans, yes it would bother me. If it meant you believed you were justified in imposing your beliefs on your fellow humans, it would bother me. If you simply use that belief as a way to be a better human, doesn't bother me at all.
I think that doing my best to figure out what is true and using that as a basis for how I live my life is a healthier approach than trying to bend the truth to what I want to believe.
“The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated communist, but people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists.”
― Hannah Arendt, The Origins of Totalitarianism, 1951