Tattoos

[_subgenius]

The posters here that object to "others" getting a tattoo (presumably legally), I can not help but wonder how/why you conclude (without solicitation) your right to either object? contradict? or intervene in any way?

[_canpakes]

The posters here that object to "others" getting a tattoo (presumably legally), I can not help but wonder how/why you conclude (without solicitation) your right to either object? contradict? or intervene in any way?

Answer that as if your kid was getting one. I know how you’re supposed to respond; how will you justify your stand?

[_Some Schmo]

I don't presume to know your daughter at all but I'm not sure how successful you can be in dissuading her from getting the tattoo. It kind of sounds like you're more likely to just create a scenario where she gets it anyways and just hides it from you.

Yep, I agree. But because I'm aware this is the most likely outcome if I press the issue, I'm extremely cautious in how I talk to her about it.

Frankly, I was just thinking about it, and it wouldn't surprise me if she already has one on a place covered by clothing. She was raised to be her own person.

Assuming she is set on getting one a more positive tract might be in encouraging her to put a fair bit of thought into what she is wanting and helping her find a really good artist with a reputable setup and a long history of work. I don't think I've talked to anyone that wasn't at least a little nervous about their first visit but the setting and artist can have a huge impact on how that goes and what the outcome is. Also, most of the people I've met that regretted their work was more tied to lack of forethought into it and bad work by the artist.

This is great advice. Not sure I can bring myself to encourage her this way, but if I were to get directly involved, this would be the way.

Fact is, she is grown up now. It's not even close to my place anymore to say what she does one way or the other. I give my advice these days only when she asks for it.

[_Some Schmo]

A discreet but easily findable tattoo listing vital medical data about a person like blood type, allergies to certain antibiotics or other medications could possibly save time for first responders and emergency room personnel treating unconscious accident victims and even the life of an accident victim highly allergic to one or more of the substances in an EMT's or hospital standard emergency response kit.

From a purely rational perspective, this is a great idea.

How come it feels so 1984? (This brings up the whole debate over whether the benefit of giving other people information about yourself, a.k.a your data, outweighs the risk... different thread).

[_ajax18]

My daughter has started talking about getting a tattoo, much to my horror. I suppose I started the thread partly to reconcile this desire of hers. I won't stop her; that's not how I roll, but if I can make her feel like not wanting one is her idea, that would be optimal.

Would you pay for her to get it removed if she decides she doesn't like it? How well does that even work.

My daughter is young still so I haven't bee through it yet but I feel for you on this one. It would break my heart even though it's ultimately not my decision. They don't wash off and my daughter looks so perfect to me already.

[_Brackite]

I don't have any tattoos.

[_Some Schmo]

My daughter has started talking about getting a tattoo, much to my horror. I suppose I started the thread partly to reconcile this desire of hers. I won't stop her; that's not how I roll, but if I can make her feel like not wanting one is her idea, that would be optimal.

Would you pay for her to get it removed if she decides she doesn't like it? How well does that even work.

Of course I would, but I think it would leave a scar. Probably depends on how good the doctor is.

My daughter is young still so I haven't bee through it yet but I feel for you on this one. It would break my heart even though it's ultimately not my decision. They don't wash off and my daughter looks so perfect to me already.

My daughter still looks like a child to me, even though she's grown. It's funny how she's made every girl her age look like a child to me. It gets harder all the time to see young adults as anything but young.

[_ajax18]

Of course I would, but I think it would leave a scar. Probably depends on how good the doctor is.

I would too. But I'm never going to offer that before the fact.

[_Some Schmo]

Of course I would, but I think it would leave a scar. Probably depends on how good the doctor is.

I would too. But I'm never going to offer that before the fact.

I won't either, nor would I offer after the fact. She'd have to want it/ask for it.

[_Doctor Steuss]

Of course I would, but I think it would leave a scar. Probably depends on how good the doctor is.

The scaring is surprisingly minimal for what it is that has to be done. If done by a decent plastic surgeon, and over a long course of treatments, She'd probably end up with some skin discoloration that would improve over time.. It's pretty expensive though, and even with anesthesia can be extremely painful.

If you aren't familiar with the story of Bryon Widner (or the movie, which I believe is on Netflix right now, called Erasing Hate), he's a pretty striking example of "before and after."