drumdude wrote: ↑Sun Jul 17, 2022 7:22 pm
This was meant to directly address the criticism that ex-Mormons are "negative to the point of dark caricature." They are simply not, and you can see it if you're not ignoring all of the positive points critics concede about Mormonism.
My impression is that, on the whole, Mormonism Live! is very critical of the LDS Church and Mormonism. It does a better job in many ways than John Dehlin does, but it commits much effort to criticizing what the LDS Church and its leaders do. For that reason, I think it is certainly lopsided. Now, the fine research and thinking of RFM in particular makes it a real feast of a learning experience. There is no doubt that you will think more, learn more, and laugh more with RFM involved than you will with just about any other podcast, but that does not change the fact that its focus is largely negative.
I don't want to pass over the nods to fairness along the way. Certainly they could be less fair. I am not sure that I can expect them to be more fair. The podcast exists for a particular purpose and audience. At the same time, let's be realistic regarding what we expect of the LDS Church. I think there have been some efforts to be less harsh about people who leave the LDS Church, but we can't expect them to be non-partisan on that issue.
Finally, I wasn't referring to Mormonism Live in particular when I wrote "negative to the point of dark caricature." I was stating a rule of thumb that I observe. Too often I hear things from ex-LDS podcasters that simply sound absurd to me. John Dehlin in particular is given to making sweeping generalizations about the LDS Church and Mormonism. I have always valued certain things he does, but it is hard to take him seriously when he is so ham-handed in his approach. Bill Reel is also so slanted that it makes me laugh at times. Not that I do not respect Bill's intelligence and journey, but he is obviously so biased against Mormonism that it is sometimes hard to take his opinion seriously unless you share that bias.
Drumdude wrote:This seems necessary to me to avoid the caricature in your mind that ex-Mormons are "negative to the point of dark caricature."
Your reading of my post is inaccurate.
It's actually worse than Theranos. Because Mormons are taught from birth to believe that if they don't "invest" 10% of their income every year, they will actually be punished for eternity. This isn't people deciding to invest based off a few minutes reading a prospectus. This is a lifetime of indoctrination at work.
Yeah, again, your comparison is disastrously silly. First, let's be realistic and concede that most people who do pay tithing pay on the net, meaning "after taxes." Sure, there are some zealous folks who will go the extra mile by paying on the gross, but they are probably in a very small minority. Second, "punished for eternity" is just silliness. Punished how exactly? By having a somewhat less dreamy afterlife than one would have otherwise had? By having fewer opportunities to go to the temple or holding fewer high callings? I mean, that doesn't necessarily sound like punishment to me.
The truth is that people are liable to imagine they should be punished when they don't live up to the expectations of others in a religious community. Sometimes bishops have to caution people not to be so hard on themselves. Sure, if a person insists on seeing the dark side of everything, or letting zealots define their religious lives for them, there are plenty of opportunities to feel bad and guilty everywhere. Go join a political party and see how bad you should feel for not toeing the party line! Go be a progressive activist and trip over yourself to figure out which pronoun or term for this or that group is in vogue today, lest you be found among the benighted souls who did not read the latest memo. Go be a principled conservative and a "Never Trumper."
I'm really no longer impressed with the argument that I should avoid groups where someone might make me feel bad for not drinking enough Kool Aid every day. The truth of the matter is that humans engage in this nonsense. There is always someone out there who is falling all over themselves to feel like the #1 cultist in any group, and one way they do this is to hold everyone else as "X"INOs. One of the best things about being a heretic Mormon, for me, was realizing that Lou Midgley's opinion of me did not matter to me
at all.
And here's the thing: when it comes to Mormonism, nobody's opinion of me matters much to me. I just don't care. I don't care what progressives and conservatives think of me either. But that does not mean that they won't say nasty things about me. Oh, they will. The trick is not to give much of a crap about any of it. Just do you and try not to sweat the disapproval of others. People need community, but they also need enough of a backbone not to get railroaded by the local zealots in any organization.
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