malkie wrote: ↑Sun Jan 25, 2026 12:37 am
OK - some people who leave religion may retain some part of the moral teachings of that religion.
Now, how to account for the huge numbers of people who have never been "religious", but manage to go about their lives at peace with their neighbours, not raping, pillaging, and murdering?
I would question the statement about LGBTQ people being more likely to - "do this"? Whatever "do this" means (mix & match?).
I expect that, like non-LGBTQ people, it would depend on which religion they left. Leaving a religion that has one suppress their own conscience or self worth would likely be different from leaving a religion that supports personal conscience and self worth fully. Nothing to do with being or not being LGBTQ, and more to do with how the religion has impinged on the person leaving. LGBTQ people are people!
malkie, that goes without saying as far as I'm concerned. We have four kids. One of them is gay and married to a same sex partner. That 'child' (yep, your children are always your children!) and their partner/spouse have taken with them much of what they learned and practiced in their years growing up as they took on with them on many of the 'external' elements of the moral code/compass that was their 'chart' on the wall, so to speak.
Obviously, their life track does not sit right on/exactly on top of the 'external track' they internalized as they went through their formative years and many years into their adult lives. But they've made the best of it as they have taken what mattered to them and added/subtracted what doesn't, and they have moved on in joy and happiness.
I think that critics, well some critics, need to be a bit careful as they 'judge' those that are active and believing members of the church. It is not a 'one size fits all' as some are wont to paint it to be. I've said this many times...God is a LOT BIGGER than any one institution essentially run by humans. Even if one believes that divine influence/authority is part and parcel of that restored institution/church.
I've also said in the past that it is my belief that many of those that have left the church were/are fundamentalists at heart. Not a lot of wiggle room for exploring and looking at the world 'as it is' and trying to make some sense out of it all. They took their bags and ran.
Now, I'm not saying that this description applies to
each and every person who leaves the church, or those on this board in particular, but I think there may be some merit to the argument. Why? Because there has been a good deal of conversation on this board over the years that, at least to me,
seems to come from persons that have had a somewhat black and white view of the world before they left the church. Either/or. This or that.
The world, in my opinion, was painted in much larger strokes on a larger canvas than some critics would seemingly want to paint it or can see it. Perspective matters.
Regards,
MG