Fionn wrote:
I don't have references for women having their salvation threatened if they refused to obey and go along with polygamy. Oh, except for Emma. Correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't Emma threatened by god, via her husband, with destruction if she did not embrace polygamy?
There were many women threatened with losing salvation. It's right in the LDS
canon. Lets start with Emma:
52 And let mine handmaid, Emma Smith, receive all those that have been given unto my servant Joseph, and who are virtuous and pure before me; and those who are not pure, and have said they were pure, shall be destroyed, saith the Lord God.
53 For I am the Lord thy God, and ye shall obey my voice; and I give unto my servant Joseph that he shall be made ruler over many things; for he hath been faithful over a few things, and from henceforth I will strengthen him.
54 And I command mine handmaid, Emma Smith, to abide and cleave unto my servant Joseph, and to none else. But if she will not abide this commandment she shall be destroyed, saith the Lord; for I am the Lord thy God, and will destroy her if she abide not in my law.
55 But if she will not abide this commandment, then shall my servant Joseph do all things for her, even as he hath said; and I will bless him and multiply him and give unto him an hundredfold in this world, of fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters, houses and lands, wives and children, and crowns of eternal lives in the eternal worlds.
All women who do not obey the command of plural marriage are damned and destroyed. Destroyed in this context meant to lose their exaltation. (and have their characters slandered

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64 And again, verily, verily, I say unto you, if any man have a wife, who holds the keys of this power, and he teaches unto her the law of my priesthood [plural marriage required for exaltation], as pertaining to these things, then shall she believe and administer unto him, or she shall be destroyed, saith the Lord your God; for I will destroy her; for I will magnify my name upon all those who receive and abide in my law.
65 Therefore, it shall be lawful in me, if she receive not this law, for him to receive all things whatsoever I, the Lord his God, will give unto him, because she did not believe and administer unto him according to my word; and she then becomes the transgressor; and he is exempt from the law of Sarah, who administered unto Abraham according to the law when I commanded Abraham to take aHagar to wife.
In other words, if your husband asks for your consent to take a plural wife, you will lose your exaltation (in Mormon belief that is salvation) if you refuse her. The husband is then no longer required to have your consent and is exempt from that law of Sarah and can take the new wife with God's sanction. The consent law did not give the woman any power to prevent their husband from taking a new wife.
So this works out quite nicely for Joseph's shenanigans. He could lie and deceive Emma about the marriages with God's approval because she had refused to consent in living the law that was revealed to her. No matter what Joseph did wrong, there was always a scripture in section 132 to bail him out. Even taking other mens wives.