Hoops wrote:I'm making my comments from the context of a marriage.
Who says it can't be all of those things at once? Or singularly? I think it is. And when it is any one of these, or any combination of them, they are perfectly in line with how the experience is designed.
I think that's the problem. There's a major subtext in Mormonism about appropriate sexual expression in the bedroom. We've been told that we aren't to "talk dirty" to our spouses in bed; we aren't to engage in unholy and impure practices, such as oral sex; if a spouse is uncomfortable with any aspect of our sex life, we should stop doing it, without discussion or compromise.
That's where the hangups come from. Most people recognize that sexuality is like any other part of a relationship. No two people come at it with exactly the same attitudes and experiences, so it is part of building a relationship to talk about it, compromise, do things for each other. In much of Mormon culture, it's kind of taboo to explore, let alone communicate, our desires to each other.
