why me wrote:sailgirl,
I think that you need to see the comments of husband and relative as something positive. Perhaps your husband is concerned for your physical well-being and honestly believes that garments will protect you. This is a sign of love if true. And your relative views LDS baptism as a catholic would view a first holy communion at the age of seven. Both are important in the life of the child and in the life of the relatives. In this case, the baptism and in the other case, the holy communion. I would not think that it is something negative but a positive. Thanks for your post...but I would see your experiences as related by you in a much more positive slant. But of course, you know better since you were there. Thanks for your post....
Stop being the apologist for two seconds. She was pouring out her heart about how she felt inadequate and under appreciated.
Sailgirl---One thing I did forget to mention earlier....and this is coming from someone who has been married for 20 years:
(Harmony, jump in on this anytime)
Men are stupid when it comes to women. They need to be trained. You're young. You'll eventually get the hang of it.
One thing I do agree with in Why Me's post is that what your husband said could be construed as a positive statement, but not for the insipid reason of protection that he came up with.
You asked your husband the question:
"If there was one thing you could change about me, what would it be?"
His response was:
"I wish you would start wearing your garments again."
Considering all you do at home with taking care of kids while he's working two jobs, and the fact that from everything else you've told me, your relationship is basically a good one, here is the real translation of your husband's statement:
"You are a great wife and mother and I love you. I appreciate what you do at home, and there really isn't anything about you that I would want to change. The only thing I can think of is that wearing your garments again would make things easier for us to get along with from an LDS perspective with external family, etc."
Women are verbal. Men typically aren't...especially when approached face to face.
;)