Scottie wrote:Thanks Liz.
And, Schmo, not that it's any of your business, but there is more to a relationship than getting it on. I've done the casual sex thing, and it's not for me. I'm sort of girly that way, in that I'd rather make love to someone that I'm in love with than just "cram and slap it" as you so eloquently put it. :)
And, no, marriage is not on the horizon. I honestly don't know where this will go. It may very well turn out that I can't date a TBM. But I happen to know a few guys that are living the lie and seem quite happy doing so. There are worse way to raise your kids. Plus, with me in the picture, I can separate supposed doctrine from the CTR A (or whatever) teacher's opinion. I can make sure my kids know how to think for themselves.
Thus far, I've been able to go to church, and it's really not that bad. The guys in my elders quorum are really cool and we have a lot of fun.
Now, when it comes time to pay tithing and wear garments.......that's going to be my Achilles heel.
I never said it was my business. When it comes right down to it, it's your funeral. The advice was free, and of course, you get what you pay for.
Yes, I'd rather "make love" to someone I cared for too. But like you said, there's more to a relationship than sex, and way more to a marriage. I personally think it's completely selfish and unfair to raise kids in a home where the parents aren't a relatively united front. I also don't think it's fair to children to have parents who "live a lie." You really think those guys you know are happy? If so, they must be easily satisfied (which is to say, they likely have no relationship standards whatsoever).
But dude, do what you want. If you don't mind going to church, have at 'er. I don't really care either way. All I said was, "Don't say I didn't warn you."
God belief is for people who don't want to live life on the universe's terms.