Marie "dances" while her son goes into rehab

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thestyleguy wrote:beause I'm very obessive compulsive and paranoid (thanks to the church)


Love the scape goating here.
One moment in annihilation's waste,
one moment, of the well of life to taste-
The stars are setting and the caravan
starts for the dawn of nothing; Oh, make haste!

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LifeOnaPlate wrote:
thestyleguy wrote:beause I'm very obessive compulsive and paranoid (thanks to the church)


Love the scape goating here.


If you believe in extremes - then it's easy to believe in other extremes - like failure leads to failure or good to good. You believe premarital sex is next murder you are an extreme wacko.
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thestyleguy wrote: You believe premarital sex is next murder you are an extreme wacko.


Couldn't agree more.
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barrelomonkeys wrote:
thestyleguy wrote: You believe premarital sex is next murder you are an extreme wacko.


Couldn't agree more.


Me too! It is such credo that has debilitated more than habilitated those who have fallen victim to Mormon-maddness. So contrary to the Jesus example, "...he without sin cast the first stone..."

I'm in sympathy with Marie. She, or anyone in her position, needs all the support she/they can get. As with so many of us our decisions in parental matters, they are not always the best. But as someone said, "...doing the best with what you have..." Hopefully we too learn from our mistakes, as do the children, who hopefuuly have not been hurt beyond forgiving... Warm regards, Roger
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Thanks Merc, for posting the Marie story. I just watched it. Should have first, before posting. I think she is courageous to publicly discuss a very personal matter, that cannot be without heart-breaking pain. AND, as a Public-Mormon, who has been LDS exploited--in my opinion-- to put forth on family difficulties that are "...not supposed to exist in good LDS families..." is almost heroic.

It is a wake-up-call to LDS parents especially--and others of course--that FAMILY COMES FIRST!!! For too long the homily, " the family that prays together stays together" has not been as effective as hoped. Otherwise... I am talking real family, here, now, moment-by-moment! Not some corporate, structured, family-one-nighter scheduled one-out-of-seven, with hymns and prayer. Or the next-world with folks you don't even know...

OTOH, "... the family that plays together..." tends to a more joyous, rewarding relationship that is not expressed in bitterness that is often found here. Generally speaking, of course.

And, I ask, why such bitterness directed at the messenger here?? Folks, it's the message!!! Mormonism doesn't work as its Principlals pretend cuz it's not following practical Principles. Get off'a Merc's back, YEESHH! Warm regards, Roger
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thestyleguy wrote:
LifeOnaPlate wrote:
thestyleguy wrote:beause I'm very obessive compulsive and paranoid (thanks to the church)


Love the scape goating here.


If you believe in extremes - then it's easy to believe in other extremes - like failure leads to failure or good to good. You believe premarital sex is next murder you are an extreme wacko.


You believe it's somehow OK to put down other people based on their struggles in life, and even enjoy it. Being called an "extreme wacko" by someone like you reads like a compliment.

Nice dodge, by the way.
One moment in annihilation's waste,
one moment, of the well of life to taste-
The stars are setting and the caravan
starts for the dawn of nothing; Oh, make haste!

-Omar Khayaam

*Be on the lookout for the forthcoming album from Jiminy Finn and the Moneydiggers.*
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Roger Morrison wrote:
And, I ask, why such bitterness directed at the messenger here?? Folks, it's the message!!! Mormonism doesn't work as its Principlals pretend cuz it's not following practical Principles. Get off'a Merc's back, YEESHH! Warm regards, Roger


A stunning generalization.
One moment in annihilation's waste,
one moment, of the well of life to taste-
The stars are setting and the caravan
starts for the dawn of nothing; Oh, make haste!

-Omar Khayaam

*Be on the lookout for the forthcoming album from Jiminy Finn and the Moneydiggers.*
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Merc wrote:As she prostrates herself on the Lizards altar you could see a look of shame and not the face of a mother who has a real plan to fix her son.


What led you to believe that she didn't have a plan in place? I didn't sense that at all. Her son is in rehab. It sounds like she's doing the best she can with the situation.

As a parent of teen-agers, myself, I can't imagine the heartache she must be going through. And to be publicly called out on it unexpectedly must have been devastating for her.

I think she was caught off guard and didn't really know what to say.

I don't think that her public shame overshadowed the sincere pain she feels regarding the situation with her son. I assessed it as more of a case of her simply not being prepared to deal with this situation in a public setting.

I don't know that I could have handled it any better.

I hope her son gets the help he needs.
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I found it. When we were looking for treatment options for our daughter we spoke to an adolescent substance abuse therapist for referrals. She gave me this list of possible options for us here in Utah. They are a mix of Day Treatment, Residential Treatment, Residential Treatment with Academics, Residential Treatment Boarding Schools and Wilderness Therapy.

Aspen Ranch
Anasazi Wilderness Program (this one is in Arizona but is used a lot by Utah residents)
Aspen Achievement Academy
Sunhawk Academy
YouthCare Residential Treatment Center
The Gathering Place
Wilderness Quest
Cedar Breaks Academy
Cornerstone Counseling Center
Eagle Quest
Eccles Teen Home & Children's Center
Southwest Center
Utah Youth Village
Wasatch Canyons Residential Treatment Center
The Ark of Little Cottonwood
Bountiful Treatment Center
Cinnamon Hills Youth Crisis Center
Cirque Lodge
Discovery House
Harm Reduction Project
Highland Ridge Hospital
Institute of Change
Inter-Being Wellness and Recovery Center
Intermountain Specialized Abuse Treatment Center
The Journey at Willowcreek
Life-Line Adolescent Treatment Center
New Haven Residential Treatment Center
Odyssey House
Passages to Recovery
Positive Adjustments Corporation
Renaissance Ranch
Sorenson's Ranch School
University Neuropsychiatric Institute
Utah Behavioral Healthcare Network
Wilderness Quest
YouthCare Residential Treatment Center
Teen Rehab Utah, Adolescent Treatment in Utah
Valley Mental Health
RedCliff Ascent
Distant Drums

My daughter's center housed 60 patients and was nearly always filled to capacity. It had anywhere between 100-150 outpatient service patients. According to my daughter's counselor approximately 80% of the teens had listed LDS as their religious affiliation.
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LifeOnaPlate wrote:
thestyleguy wrote:
LifeOnaPlate wrote:
thestyleguy wrote:beause I'm very obessive compulsive and paranoid (thanks to the church)


Love the scape goating here.


If you believe in extremes - then it's easy to believe in other extremes - like failure leads to failure or good to good. You believe premarital sex is next murder you are an extreme wacko.


You believe it's somehow OK to put down other people based on their struggles in life, and even enjoy it. Being called an "extreme wacko" by someone like you reads like a compliment.

Nice dodge, by the way.


So you admit being LDS is a mental struggle; if not and if you think I am putting people down for taking drugs you need a reading course - just the basics to start. read my responses or read what YOU read into them.
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