This is grossly unfair. We need a word for men as well. Slut should apply to men as well.How about skank.
I think the current word is "Manwhore". But it's not the same, because it's kind of tongue-in-cheek. I'm not sure our larger culture will ever get completely over the sexual double standard.
Well, let me say this.... I think when you're "dating" it might be a bit different than being incredibly bonded to someone and wanting to understand them -- whatever it may be. The good, the bad, and the ugly
My bf and I have been together ten years, and know every last little wart and burp about each other's past. And we entertain each other with certain repeated stories about said past. ;)
Although I was totally chaste after joining the LDS church (with the exception of some petting with my future husband, which we confessed and repented of prior to marriage), I felt morally obligated to tell my future husband I was not a virgin. He acted ok with it, and didn't probe, but on the honeymoon, he started asking for details. naïvely trusting him to be, you know, like my boyfriend who would never probe my past in order to HURT me but instead only to UNDERSTAND me, I told him. I think that's what set off the first round of verbal abuse on the honeymoon. I really think he saw me as tainted somehow. The irony is that HE didn't tell me until we'd been married FOR YEARS that he and his first wife had premarital sex regularly when dating as teenagers in the church. I was shocked, considering how he reacted to my PREBAPTISM history.
So, yes, I think that in a healthy relationship it's very normal to share a lot about your past. My boyfriend knows things about me no other human being knows, or will ever know. :P