What is Emotional Abuse?

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Mercury wrote:
The Nehor wrote:Seems a broad definition unless we want to call parenting abuse.


You do not understand. Go play elsewhere, imp.


Oh no, my feelings are hurt now. The evil, bad anti-mormon says horrible things about me. It's probably yet another cover for his bizarre attraction to me. Sorry Merc, still not interested.

Anyways, just pointing out that parents routinely use things like coercion and fear. The whole time-out concept, withholding desserts, punishments, and rewards.
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The Nehor wrote:
Mercury wrote:
The Nehor wrote:Seems a broad definition unless we want to call parenting abuse.


You do not understand. Go play elsewhere, imp.


Oh no, my feelings are hurt now. The evil, bad anti-mormon says horrible things about me. It's probably yet another cover for his bizarre attraction to me. Sorry Merc, still not interested.

Anyways, just pointing out that parents routinely use things like coercion and fear. The whole time-out concept, withholding desserts, punishments, and rewards.


Do you think it within the realm of possiblity that you would do what the guy asks you and get off the thread? So far as I can tell, he started this thread for serious purposes and to get serious responses. Stop making a joke of his thread.
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Jersey Girl wrote:
The Nehor wrote:
Mercury wrote:
The Nehor wrote:Seems a broad definition unless we want to call parenting abuse.


You do not understand. Go play elsewhere, imp.


Oh no, my feelings are hurt now. The evil, bad anti-mormon says horrible things about me. It's probably yet another cover for his bizarre attraction to me. Sorry Merc, still not interested.

Anyways, just pointing out that parents routinely use things like coercion and fear. The whole time-out concept, withholding desserts, punishments, and rewards.


Do you think it within the realm of possiblity that you would do what the guy asks you and get off the thread? So far as I can tell, he started this thread for serious purposes and to get serious responses. Stop making a joke of his thread.


I responded seriously. He called me an imp. I retaliated. Deal with it.
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The Nehor wrote:
Mercury wrote:
The Nehor wrote:Seems a broad definition unless we want to call parenting abuse.


You do not understand. Go play elsewhere, imp.


Oh no, my feelings are hurt now. The evil, bad anti-mormon says horrible things about me. It's probably yet another cover for his bizarre attraction to me. Sorry Merc, still not interested.

Anyways, just pointing out that parents routinely use things like coercion and fear. The whole time-out concept, withholding desserts, punishments, and rewards.


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Abusive Use of Fear: Don't (insert sin here) or God will make bad things happen to you
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Anyways, just pointing out that parents routinely use things like coercion and fear. The whole time-out concept, withholding desserts, punishments, and rewards.



Since when does "time out" have anything to do with coercion, fear, punishment or reward?
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Jersey Girl wrote:
Anyways, just pointing out that parents routinely use things like coercion and fear. The whole time-out concept, withholding desserts, punishments, and rewards.



Since when does "time out" have anything to do with coercion, fear, punishment or reward?


Time out is a punishment. The purpose of the punishment is to encourage corrective action through the threat of it happening again.

Coercion is the practice of compelling a person to behave in an involuntary way (whether through action or inaction) by use of threats, intimidation or some other form of pressure or force.

Though my parents never used that particular form of punishment, those they did use were often used as threats. They were mild threats admittedly and they tried as best they could to show me the inherent rightness of certain choices. Still, when I attacked my brother my father used intimidation to make me back down. When I didn't care about my grades, coercion was used as a stopgap to help me get them back up.
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Time out is a punishment. The purpose of the punishment is to encourage corrective action through the threat of it happening again.


Explain how you think Time out is punishment.
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The Nehor wrote:Though my parents never used that particular form of punishment, those they did use were often used as threats. They were mild threats admittedly and they tried as best they could to show me the inherent rightness of certain choices. Still, when I attacked my brother my father used intimidation to make me back down. When I didn't care about my grades, coercion was used as a stopgap to help me get them back up.

Did your parents ever coerce you to date? Mine did (although they used incentives instead of threats). In the end it wasn't necessary, but it makes for a funny story. I like girls. I'm just terrified of them.
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Jersey Girl wrote:
Time out is a punishment. The purpose of the punishment is to encourage corrective action through the threat of it happening again.


Explain how you think Time out is punishment.


No child (well, at least not many) actively seek the state of time out. Generally it denies them something that they want, whether that's toys, companionship of siblings or parents, the TV, etc. I would define such a state as a punishment.
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Jersey Girl wrote:
Time out is a punishment. The purpose of the punishment is to encourage corrective action through the threat of it happening again.


Explain how you think Time out is punishment.


Look up the word Positive Reinforcement and negative reinforcement. Then look up punishment. Matter of fact, go buy a dictionary ;)
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