Marriage: What is the point?

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_Rambo
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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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Jersey Girl wrote:I *never* intended to get married--ever. I didn't trust that a marriage could last and I sure as hell never wanted kids! Men were undependable, I wanted my flipping independence, and children were a messy inconvenience.

I have been married for (what year is it? I have to do the math :-) well, longer than most on this thread have probably been alive and not only did I have kids, I ended up in a child-related profession.

What is the point? I don't know. Maybe the point is to show you that you're freakin' wrong!

:-D


I guess this post should be in the kids and marriage thread.

Who's wrong?
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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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Rambo wrote:
Jersey Girl wrote:I *never* intended to get married--ever. I didn't trust that a marriage could last and I sure as hell never wanted kids! Men were undependable, I wanted my flipping independence, and children were a messy inconvenience.

I have been married for (what year is it? I have to do the math :-) well, longer than most on this thread have probably been alive and not only did I have kids, I ended up in a child-related profession.

What is the point? I don't know. Maybe the point is to show you that you're freakin' wrong!

:-D


I guess this post should be in the kids and marriage thread.

Who's wrong?


Firstly, you are wrong. :-) My comment is mainly on marriage.

Oh, you mean the last line of the post? Me. I was wrong.

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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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Jersey Girl wrote:
Some Schmo wrote:It basically lets the authorities know who gets whose s*** when someone dies, and who can be in the room at the hospital.


and who can authorize pulling the plug. Yeah, I said it, so sue me. ;-)

Consider this post the act of you being served.

I'm suing you for thinking and saying what I should have included in my post first. Mostly this amounts to punitive damages for emotional distress.
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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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Jersey Girl wrote:
Firstly, you are wrong. :-)


About what? :) I really can't tell if your kidding or not.
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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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Some Schmo wrote:It basically lets the authorities know who gets whose s*** when someone dies, and who can be in the room at the hospital.


Jersey Girl wrote:and who can authorize pulling the plug. Yeah, I said it, so sue me. ;-)


Some Schmo wrote:Consider this post the act of you being served.

I'm suing you for thinking and saying what I should have included in my post first. Mostly this amounts to punitive damages for emotional distress.


I've obviously been married far longer than you. It's the first thing that came to mind!
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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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I think a very important reason is children. As a divorce lawyer I have seen too many times the extent that couples will selfishly disregard the material welfare of their own children.

I am not so sure Just Me how this would work with out the marital contract.

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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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just me wrote:I feel that the three main points of marriage are:

1) Religious validation of a sexual relationship
2) Public announcement of commitment
3) Tax and insurance benefits


I would add social acceptance (particularly within Mormonism)
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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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mikwut wrote:I think a very important reason is children. As a divorce lawyer I have seen too many times the extent that couples will selfishly disregard the material welfare of their own children.

I am not so sure Just Me how this would work with out the marital contract.

regards, mikwut


How what would work without the marriage contract?
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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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Enforcing proper financial support for example for children and when necessary for the non-working spouse.

Without a contract I don't how that would be enforced, and I am certain from experience it would exploited.

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Re: Marriage: What is the point?

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I would like to add that I have never felt imprisoned or tied down since getting married. I'm sure this is due mainly to the fact that I got lucky and found an awesome woman. She comes from an excellent family, who happens to be very disappointed in my apostasy right now. That sucks. How do I show them gratitude for raising such a great person? (rhetorical question)
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