MeDotOrg wrote:People talk about the 'Circle of Life' but in reality they treat it like a line. And the end of the line is the end of life, and the end of life is to be avoided at all costs, because life is sacred.
But if we look at the universe, don't we see that old lives give way for the new? And if you think of our world like that, the linear line of separate lives and deaths merge, and curve into a circle. Everything constantly re-invents itself.
My father died when he was 86. He had always lead an active in life, but the last 15 years of his life were not kind. He had always been the man in charge, the guy who picked up the tab, but it was hard to be that guy when you were using a walker. A series of strokes slowed his speech. A room filled with banter, the kind of room he used to effortlessly navigate, was becoming an incomprehensible universe. The final humiliation was incontinence.
He was an old man who had a good life. He didn't want to be a burden. When he fell and broke his hip there was a complication, and with the family all gathered around his bed he said "let me go, let me go". Medicine was capable of prolonging his suffering, but our family (who received end of life counseling at the hospital) elected not to.
Social institutions and conventions change, sometimes for very pragmatic reasons. The average age of marriage has risen continuously over centuries in developed countries. Birth control has lead to different social models. Sex has been decoupled from marriage, and (for those who are educated enough) the control of child bearing for women.
Advances in medicine can give us a lot more life. The American lifespan nearly doubled in the 20th century. But for many elderly people, the end of their lives begins to look like a futile rearguard action that only postpones the inevitable, without adding to the richness of their life experience. People should have the right to make well informed choices about the end of their lives.
When you see life as a circle (i.e. reincarnation) the idea of giving up your life to make way for the new is not something that should be avoided at all costs.
Great post. My I take off my (black) hat to all of you who replied to an extraordinarily stupid OP with insightful thoughts that address real issues.